If you have a family member, relative or partner who has an addiction, you will know how hard it is to reach out to them sometimes. They could get hostile or be in complete denial about the problems they have. It can be tempting just to let them get on with it and hope they see sense in time. But this can often result in the addiction getting worse. Addiction won’t disappear and cannot be dealt with without acknowledging and accepting the problem. So if you’re eager to help a loved one through their addiction use these steps.
Plan an Intervention
Interventions might sound daunting, but they can be highly effective if done in the correct manner. While group interventions can have more impact, they can also make your loved one feel overwhelmed and pressured. So instead of taking this approach initially, schedule some time alone together where you can talk. They will need to feel comfortable and at ease if you want this to work effectively. Express your concerns in a persuasive but calm manner. It’s likely they will not like what you are saying so try to remain as relaxed as possible. Try to use words such as I think you have a problem rather than accusing them of being an addict. This will just make them angry and upset. As hard as it might be, also have some facts to back you up. Talk to them about their behaviour at a recent birthday party or how dangerous they were driving last night. Always remember to offer help and support throughout their recovery.
Be prepared with information
If your loved one had a realisation during your intervention and wants to seek help, make sure you are prepared. Have the contact information of rehab centres, support groups and housing communities such as A Fresh Start Sober Living. Introducing them to a forum or online group that deals with addiction could also be a stepping stone. Stay with them while they email or call these services or offer to do it for them. Some addicts will promise to get in touch with organisations but then avoid doing so. This could be due to fear or not fully accepting their problem. If they are not yet ready to start their recovery, don’t pressure them. This will just make them feel worse and could damage the trust you have built up.
Once they have taken the necessary steps needed to start the recovery process, remain loyal and supportive. Go with them to meetings and doctors appointments if you can. Even if you are not allowed into the treatment sessions, having you nearby will be a comfort to them. Stay positive and offer hope by celebrating when they reach a goal. If you have exhausted every resource, a tough love approach might become your only option. This might seem cruel but it could be the realisation they need.
With these steps to help you, you can help your loved one on the road to recovery. Remember even when times get tough that your love and involvement is making a difference.